Archive for July, 2008

I was reading the online discussions sponsored by Deepak Chopra’s Chopra Center where he answers questions. One of the questions was about someone, who had been married for over twenty years, still hanging on to thoughts of an ex-girlfriend who he had split with with many years before.

Chopra said that he thought that the hanging on to thoughts of the ex was most probably because of the story that the man was telling to himself about that relationship. In fact, we tell ourselves stories all the time, when the TV isn’t trying to tell us other stories. Our thoughts, influenced by our environments and experiences, tell us the stories of who we are and what happened and who we’ll keep thinking of- and we write our lives inside our own heads with our thoughts. The wonderful thing that means is that we can re-write our lives also. (more…)


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Quirky little quirkology

One of my favorite writers these days is psychologist Richard Wiseman, who delights me by investigating psychological issues like- Can we really tell when someone is lying? How honest are the people of a nation? What is the funniest joke in the world?

Even though these may seem like light  questions, the answers seem to tell us more important stuff. (more…)

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“The Journey from Abandonment to Healing” by Susan Anderson (Penguin Putnam, 2000) is really a very full book. It covers the physical and mental aspects of abandonment (good to read so as to understand how normal no appetite, light/little sleeping, sensitive hearing, anxiety etc. are and how these things are biologically wired into us).


Introduction to Abandonment


The meat of the book is the techniques for healing the abandonment wound. I have pulled the two main techniques out so that people who want to cut to the chase and start working on healing now can do so. (more…)

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